Emotional Privilege

5 Steps to Proactive Kindness by Jahan Sharif

Photo by, Ghazal Sheei

Photo by, Ghazal Sheei

Hi Friends!

This week, I listened to a podcast where the guest complained about how people weren't "proactively kind" anymore. She went on to say that people rarely did things for the sole purpose of bringing happiness to another person. I thought this observiation was curious, and so I polled a few friends to see what they thought about it. Much to my surprise, many people agreed with her! Since they thought this was a problem and that they'd like for things to be different, I asked them why they didn't make like Ghandi and #BeTheChange?! 

The short answer: They didn't know how. 

I'll admit, my first reaction to this answer was that it was nonsense. But as I had more conversations, I realized that the issue wasn't that people didn't know how to be kind, it was that they didn't know where or how to initiate the process so they could show that kindness, proactively.

And so for this week's Jaja, my official 5-step guide for being proactively kind!

It’s very simple:

  1. Think about one specific person.

  2. Think about one specific experience that has made that person genuinely smile.

  3. Think about what you could do to cause that person to smile.

  4. Do it.

  5. Repeat.


  1. Tania.

  2. Surprise invitations to catch up over tea.

  3. Call her and invite her to tea.

  4. Makes call.

  5. Thinks of Tania again, or of another person.

Moral of the story: Think. Act. Repeat

Ain’t nothin’ to it, but to do it!

Los Angeles, California, USA
June 2019

Muslim, Persian, and Queer? Amir Yassai Contradicts the Contradictions by Jahan Sharif

Amir and Jahan

Amir and Jahan

You know when you meet someone new and after a short while you’re pretty sure you’ve made a new friend? That’s was Amir and me.

Our first conversation went on for three hours, and finished with us agreeing to be on each other’s budding podcasts! I went first, joining Amir and his co-host, Ryan, on their show “Let’s Tawk About It” (debuting this month!). While our conversation was mostly about building community, this idea of “emotional privilege” came up, and that’s where Amir and I started our chat.

Pretty soon though, this concept led us down the rabbit hole of identity, and Amir ended up telling me about how figuring out how to be Muslim, Persian, queer, and so much more all at the same time, might have saved his life.

Amir on Instagram: @amir_yassai
Link to the Body Positive pool party!: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/thicc-gurlz-bois-pool-party-tickets-61328573414

Los Angeles, CA, USA
June 2019